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In response to: "Sunday Stealing: The Sex Meme" 21 hours old
by menhir [Member]

Hi

Thanks for reply...till wedding day. So when are you standing under the Chupah?

I found many of my replies to comments were in the spam box, lord only knows why! Hence this very tardy response to you.

If you were drowning sorrows about my lack of joi de vivre, all I can say is, have another one, cyber-wi more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 1 day old
by stmss [Member]

Who said that the opportunity for forgiveness ends at death?

I hope your family are coping with their loss.

Have you been to sit with them yet or is that off limits too?

Sending you some sugar even though you think you don't need it :) more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 2 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thanks Stmss!

I'm delighted you managed to forgive your father.

For me however it’s no longer an issue. Mine died on Tuesday.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 2 days old
by stmss [Member]

I did forgive my father,face to face,and it was one of the most powerful things that I have ever done.

Your choice is your choice and I wish you (and your family)nothing but joy. more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by pompeycaulkhead [Member]

Hi Adam

Thinking of you anyway mate. Take care

James more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by miramaze [Member]

Hiya Adam ,

Gremlins at work ....I got 3 replies from you , but no email notification , and now pm won't let me reply. :( Let me know if you receive anything .

My email is miramaze@gmail.com

Love Light and blessings to you and your situation
xxx more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by kendersrule ^Pro

Congratulations and commiserations!
I wholely recommend going to the funeral :yes:
(and the reading of the will!)
Mainly so you definitely know he's dead, subconscious is a tricky thing... more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Hi Mira!

Just to let you know - Methinks there’s a glitch in the PM system.

You’ve either received my reply three times - Or not at all - I can’t be sure.

Please don’t think you’re being ignored. I’ll try again later.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thanks Mr B ..

I second your logic ..

Though now t’is rather academic.

My father died late last night. I shan’t be shedding tears.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thanks Kenders!

Such effusive support.

I’m genuinely heartened.

Malachi Junior - I think so too!

FYI - My father died. The king is dead etcetera.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Cheers James!

FYI - The pater died last night.

Needless to say - I shan't be attending the funeral.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 3 days old
by Bearcub [Member]

Only ever forgive and forget if you deem it necessary to improve your quality of life. If not, fuck 'em, why bother?

Sounds really selfish, but hey, No 1 always comes first when counting to ten. more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by kendersrule ^Pro

Ha!
Good on you Youngling!
May your inheritance be rich and the fruits of your labour be all the sweeter x
and btw your son is deffo an achievement ;) more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by pompeycaulkhead [Member]

Adam

Only one persons happiness comes first. Do what makes YOU comfortable.

Take care mate.
James more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by miramaze [Member]

Hi Adam

It takes time.
If your father's condition has worsened , that puts pressure on you to decide, I suppose.
Spend time- 10 minutes ,,, an hour ,,, whatever , consciously focusing on this question.
Search the depth of your heart and soul for an answer.
You might want to connect to your father's soul ?
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In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thank You Mala!

Your opinion‘s most helpful!

Forgiveness at times is simply impossible!

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Hey Mira!

All you say makes perfect sense but letting go’s far from easy.

I have been trying. For over a decade. I’m slowly making progress.

FYI - My uncle’s just phoned. My father’s condition has worsened apparently.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by malakeas ^Pro

My friend, I have walked and am walking in your shoes. Just because someone is ill doesn't mean they should be forgiven. In my opinion... more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by miramaze [Member]

Hiya Adam :)

Forgiveness is not about visiting your dad or not, but it is about letting go of feelings like resentment, anger, hate etc the things that eat away at you.

Visit him if it feels right..... if not, don't.
You can forgive from a distance and through time and space.
Personal responsibility.
T more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thanks Isadora!

It’s certainly helped.

The people around me can’t understand.

I know they mean well - I know that they care!

But whatever I feel is real to me! Whether or not it makes sense!

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by isadora101 [Member]

If venting it here alleviated some guilt then it was worth doing :yes:

Take care

isadora xx more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Hey Lilian!

Let it wash over - Absolutely! Precisely what I try to do!

Mostly it works then something happens and certain feelings flood back.

Not a huge problem! I always cope! Methinks mayhap I’m a born survivor!!

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by lilian1 [Member]

Dont feel guilty Adam life is too short for anger let it "wash" over you if you get my meaning thats what I do ;) x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by brokendownangel ^Pro

People will always do that, it is in our nature to offer advice, even if it isn't asked for or wanted! But they offer it because they care. x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Howdy Miza!

On logic you’re right!

Mine makes perfect sense to me!

You know you know nothing - Therein lies wisdom!

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Hi Pip!

You do? That’s very unfortunate!

Though it does mean you’ll understand my feelings.

Sometimes somethings are beyond forgiveness. Nick - Agreed.

Adam ... x more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Kibitz [Member]

Thanks Nick!

I'm not quite sure that happy's the word but forgiveness just ain't gonna happen!

You scared - Okay! I take your point. But as others have said it's rather unlikely!

My parents suffered from interminable anger. Me from being a convenient punch bag.

Hardly your style methinks!
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In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Miza-T [Member]

A great post Adam.

Reason itself is fallible, and this fallibility must find a place in our logic. Your logic.

As for me, all I know is that I know nothing.

xx more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by Prettyintelligentprincess ^Pro

Agree with Sj...
other people always try to make you feel guilty but it's because they cannot comprehend how you can survive without parental contact...

Nick will not experience the same as he clearly is a different type of father.

Hope you don't mind me being blunt there Nick...but it's true. I have close and deep e more…

In response to: "Somebody Somewhere" 4 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

Sarah will never think that way of you Nick. You are a great dad to her. Some people are not meant to be parents, they try and force a child to be what they want, and are disappointed when he or she is not. You are not like that in anyway at all, but maybe Adams dad was. more…