Modus Vivendi

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Modus Vivendi

by Kibitz @ 2008-08-16 – 11:05:29

Like the good Catholic Boy that I'm not .. I'm feeling the need for Confession.

Parts of my past are less than wholesome. They’re parts I usually keep to myself.

I’ve never done anything terribly terrible. Like rape, or murder, or planted a bomb.

They’re actually things I’ve done to myself .. or rather .. permitted to happen.

My modus vivendi is acquiescence. I rarely argue. What’s the point?

I go with the flow. Seldom say no. Sometimes this leads to situations.

So when it feels right I’ll spill a few beans and passively watch my Friends decline.

Nothing I write will be full frontal. My purpose is neither to shock nor offend.

I’m not a Saint. It's simply my history. Judge me or not as you will.

Adam ... x
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- sterces
- 2008-08-16 @ 11:09:09
I'm a listener. I love hearing details and I'm very good at not judging, especially as I'm in no place to cast stones...
Anyway, yeah, spill.
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 11:24:34
  Spill - I will - I promise.
  
  Once I decide where to start.
  
  And how best to tell my story.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - sterces
    - 2008-08-16 @ 11:39:17
    dicey
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- subville
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- 2008-08-16 @ 11:18:36
We all have a past

Unless we're toddlers lol

No worries, Adam x
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 11:27:16
  Thanks ... But.
  
  No worries - We’ll see.
  
  My topless pic lost me two friends.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - subville
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    - 2008-08-16 @ 11:43:34
    Really? Good grief!
    
    It's not like it was a nekkid bottom half
    
    Jeez, some folk!
    
    {{{{{get a sense of humour}}}}}
    
    That was to them. I bet they still read
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  - - kendersrule ^Pro
    - 2008-08-16 @ 14:12:52
    *jaw hits floor*
    Yer what?!
    They obviously weren't actual friends then!
    
    They didn't need a humour injection, they needed a beauty appriciation injection. The twats.
    
    Anyhow, no-one's a saint honey x
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      - 2008-08-16 @ 14:37:07
      True enough ..
      
      But even you may be disappointed.
      
      At one of the things I need to say.
      
      As for photo - Two friends down.
      
      Remember twenty questions?
      
      Adam ... x
      - kendersrule ^Pro
        
        2008-08-16 @ 18:10:08
        
        That is far to cryptic for my just-woken-up-from-a-nap self!
        
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- lucreziaborgia ^Pro
- 2008-08-16 @ 11:23:21
Not a mover and a shaker then, Adam? I get into trouble for the opposite reason. Let's swap histories!

xxLuxx
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 11:35:33
  Lol ...
  
  The most I ever move is people to tears.
  
  Swap histories .. Okay .. Wanna go first?
  
  Adam ... x
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- fairplay ^Pro
- 2008-08-16 @ 12:22:03
I think this is as good a forum as any. Strangers (those removed from a situation) can see things that others may not.

Just do what you feel comfortable with.

Someone made a sign for my door at Uni. "The Teamaker/Counsellor is in/out"

Which was of course touching, though I've rarely approached others for the same thing.

And don't worry about the torsophobes!
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 14:19:04
  Thanks. I shan't.
  
  Worry. I mean.
  
  It's publish and be damned.
  
  I never reverse decisions once made.
  
  A factor involved in many a problem
  
  Lol .. Will I never learn?
  
  Adam ... x
  - - fairplay ^Pro
    - 2008-08-16 @ 20:52:36
    It's frustrating when you make the same mistakes. Especially when you can see it and cannot seem to do anything to do it.
    
    Some of my flaws are and inevitable consequence of my greatest strengths. I'm perceptive and a listener but when it comes to big groups I struggle and appear aloof and, I also worry, arrogant.
    
    No-ones perfect so concentrate on your strengths and minimise your weaknesses.
    
    And strength to you after the deed today. Tough, but you need to do what you have to.
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- Old-Nick ^Pro
- 2008-08-16 @ 13:12:58
blimey, that picture lost you two friends! some of the pictures of me that have appeared on my blog and those of some friends should have lost me loads! Thankfully they were done friends only so maybe that is the difference.

And if you want to tell us about your past go ahead. It's not a rule that you have to.

And if people judge you and leave your friends list, you probably didn't need them as friends anyway. No one on here is that good.
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 14:25:03
  That’s my working theory.
  
  Any potential real life friends.
  
  Will accept my failings with equanimity.
  
  If those I’d like to eventually meet.
  
  Desert me in droves ...... So be it.
  
  Adam ... x
  
  P.S. I’m peeved I missed your scandalous photos.
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- isadora101
- 2008-08-16 @ 13:26:51
Ooh, you are feeling confessional then...there's certain bits of my past that I definitely keep to myself
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 14:29:55
  Lol ... Very sensible.
  
  Some bits of mine may never see daylight.
  
  I’ll ease people in then gauge the response.
  
  If more unfriendly PMs pour in ..
  
  I’ll simply up anchors and sail away.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - kendersrule ^Pro
    - 2008-08-16 @ 14:36:57
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! report the bastards don't //go//!
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  - - isadora101
    - 2008-08-16 @ 15:11:11
    Re: unfriendly PM's
    There's always a sour-puss ready to throw a spanner in the works
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- MissyMouse
- 2008-08-16 @ 14:48:12
I bet Adam that you confessions won't shock anyone....well, except your mum perhaps! Don't worry, if people find them shocking then they don't have to read any more of your writings and won't come back. No loss eh!

I am pretty sure all of us have lots of deep, dark secrets if the truth is known. I know I do....and do you know, it rather amuses me as people will think I'm a little angel. Pah, no way!!!

So do what you feel comfy with and sod everyone else

xx
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 15:35:31
  Lol .. Sod everyone.
  
  You should be a Diplomat.
  
  Shocked or not. We'll see.
  
  I'm more concerned they'll be disappointed.
  
  Which is partly I guess why I need to confess.
  
  Kinda clear things up and then move forward.
  
  If that makes any sense.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - MissyMouse
    - 2008-08-16 @ 23:28:24
    How could anyone be disappointed?? You are a young and handsome young man....I'm not disappointed looking at your photos
    
    Do what you feel comfortable with Adam!
    
    xx
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-08-16 @ 15:08:42
That sounds a bit like me, trouble is we get fed up of keeping people sweet saying yes and no in all the right places to keep people happy while we grit our teeth and one day we say what we are really thinking and shock people and lose our friends then anyway,or maybe we find out who our friends really are.
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 15:38:47
  Finding out who my real friends are ...
  
  Is my main motivation for writing Confessions.
  
  A few people here have asked to meet up.
  
  Will their invites still stand when they know me better?
  
  That’s what I need to find out.
  
  Adam ... x
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- cj592 ^Pro
- 2008-08-16 @ 18:24:39
That' why I don't show a topless pic- I would lose more than two friends---- just from dying of laughter
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 18:35:59
  Lol ..
  
  That’s probably ..
  
  What really happened with mine.
  
  Shoot! Is that manslaughter?
  
  Another dastardly deed for my list.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - cj592 ^Pro
    - 2008-08-16 @ 19:29:45
    So now we know who put the laughter in manslaughter
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- antlady69 ^Pro
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- 2008-08-16 @ 18:36:56
Ah, secrets to come! *nosiness increases*

I can't wait !!

But seriously: we've all done things we're not proud of, even if the things weren't bad in any way, just hugely embarrassing or emotionally hurtful to others. That's part of life, of our learning process.

xx
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 19:03:59
  Absolutely ..
  
  And I still have plenty to learn.
  
  My secrets .. the things I’m not proud of ..
  
  Have actually taught me a lot.
  
  Some were hugely embarrassing. Several morally wrong.
  
  You’ll see. And I’ll do my best not to keep you waiting.
  
  Adam .. x
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- kendersrule ^Pro
- 2008-08-16 @ 20:34:22
so how come you're in on a saturday night?
Oooooh! did you do the dumping?!
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-16 @ 20:46:11
  I did. Not pleasant. It’s over.
  
  I’m here passing time whilst awaiting my lift.
  
  I trust you too have a valid excuse?
  
  Adam ... x
  - - kendersrule ^Pro
    - 2008-08-16 @ 20:53:45
    yeah, I'm playing WoW. I generally don't get out much
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- - deleted user (Visitor)
  - 2008-08-18 @ 13:56:55
  Oohhh I'm glad you asked him that I was wondering that too!
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- trintrin1x
- 2008-08-16 @ 23:17:25
They were probably just jelous u had a better bod than them or it was a bod they couldn't get
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-17 @ 16:42:51
  A bod they couldn't get.
  
  Lol ..
  
  They only had to ask.
  
  Adam .. x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-08-17 @ 10:22:39
Hey Kibitz,

I'm jealous that you have a better bike than me.

When these revelations come to light, I will be the first to drop you like a hot potato.

How do you disconnect someone, so to speak?

Keith
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-17 @ 16:49:16
  Hey Keith,
  
  Given your legendary sensitive nature ..
  
  I’ll quite understand when you toss me aside.
  
  I’d expect no less. I’ll support your decision.
  
  Have you been adding rude tags again?
  
  Adam .. x
  - - deleted user (Visitor)
    - 2008-08-17 @ 20:21:15
    Hey Kibitz,
    
    ...of course you know that I'm just pulling your (hairless) leg. Who else would read my blog?
    
    Re: the tag/s it was not me this time. I have only added one tag and that was "toilet attendant"
    
    Didn't you kill my brother?
    
    Keith
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- taylor8ash
- 2008-08-17 @ 13:23:31
very curious now. youve wet my appatite as u always tell a good story.
who hasnt done things their not proud of?? without them you wouldnt be the person u are now.
your friends wont decline, hopefully no one is that judgemental.

Ash x
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-17 @ 17:02:47
  Hopefully not.
  
  But I know a few who will certainly feel ..
  
  I'm something less than they originally thought.
  
  I decided this morning which topics to cover.
  
  Three to start .. more to follow.
  
  As soon as I can I'll start writing.
  
  Adam ... x
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- Chyna_Doll
- 2008-08-17 @ 15:27:57
x
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-17 @ 17:06:17
  x ???
  
  I love you too!
  
  x ???
  
  You're cross with me?
  
  x ???
  
  ... Adam.
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- xmillyxxx ^Pro
- 2008-08-17 @ 19:54:09
Hey hun...

You are who you are...Don't change that!

{{Hugs}} xx
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-18 @ 10:26:02
  Don’t change ... Mmm.
  
  When you know me better ..
  
  You may think differently.
  
  But thanks .. it’s true ..
  
  I am whatever it is that I am.
  
  Adam ... x
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- EllieGant
- 2008-08-17 @ 23:07:07
*taps foot*

I'm waiting.

I'm not easily shocked (or don't admit to being so), I cry easily (but I have tissues to hand), and a friend in need is a - (well, a something or other.)

So don't hold back - after all, what's a blog for?
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- - MissyMouse
  - 2008-08-17 @ 23:37:30
  Yeah, what Ellie says.....
  
  I'm waiting too
  - - Kibitz
    - 2008-08-18 @ 10:36:21
    And tapping your foot?
    
    Lol ..
    
    I can’t take any more pressure!!!
    
    Adam ... x
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-18 @ 10:32:51
  Absolutely .. What's a blog for?
  
  Tissues .. Mmmm ..
  
  I'm not convinced you'll be needing those.
  
  You will however need some patience.
  
  I'm finding the first one hard to write.
  
  Mmm .. Perhaps I'll bake muffins instead.
  
  Adam ... x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-08-18 @ 15:05:41
When i saw your name kibitz it reminded me of kibutz. There are hints you are jewish specially with a name like Malachi,am i right Adam,?
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-18 @ 16:39:24
  You are - I am - A Jew.
  
  Kibitz is Yiddish. It means to chat.
  
  Kinda apt don’t you think?
  
  Adam ... x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-08-18 @ 15:13:28
Some times Adam the people who do foolish things, and things they end up embarassed by, and are sorry for, end up being better people than the ones who always seem to do the right thing.
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-18 @ 16:44:02
  Fair point. Well made.
  
  But possibly not applicable to me.
  
  Foolish Things - I like.
  
  I now know how to write my confession.
  
  No prizes awarded for guessing the title.
  
  Adam ... x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-08-19 @ 08:23:32
"Friends"...interesting concept...to test it is brave.
Sometimes...others seem to have a different mirror...if their reflection isn't quiet what you see, it doesn't mean they see it clearly...right behind you.
Now spit it...the world is clearly waiting...Jx
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-19 @ 10:11:26
  Lol ..
  
  The world need wait no longer.
  
  My first confession is written.
  
  I'll be posting it later today.
  
  I predict it’ll be an anticlimax.
  
  My second will be the real test.
  
  Adam ... x
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- hebburndelboy
- http://hebburndelboy.blog.co.uk
- 2008-08-19 @ 10:35:09
whatever you've done mate I don't judge on the past. everyone makes mistakes, fuck it. who gives a fuck? life is too short for worry mon ami.

I bet nothing you've done could put me off you.
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-19 @ 10:38:57
  Thanks Mr. Heb ..
  
  I appreciate the sentiment.
  
  But I think my second confession ..
  
  Might possibly test even you.
  
  We'll see .. Adam ... x
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    - 2008-08-19 @ 12:38:43
    we shall see.
    
    but I still doubt it.
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- happy28 ^Pro
- 2008-08-22 @ 17:44:58
we's all got skellies in our closets hun
x
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-08-22 @ 17:55:03
  Very true ..
  
  But I feel one or two of mine need airing.
  
  So people on here will know the real me.
  
  When they do I’ll attend a blog meet.
  
  Or .. Invite a few Friends to go drinkies.
  
  Adam ... x
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- misspoison
- 2008-09-21 @ 00:10:12
the worse thing for me about being a naughty catholic women, is having a catholic mother! Black sheep of the family - Child out of wedlock! Married and seperated (just 2 of the things she knows about!), I need to broach the subject of divorce with her, I'm waiting till after christmas when I have the strength!, plus she'll tell Father O'connor, then he'll tell me off, he wouldn't let me have amazing grace at my wedding, can you believe it!
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- - Kibitz
  - 2008-09-21 @ 08:45:00
  Mmmm ..
  
  I’m glad I’m not a naughty Catholic.
  
  My opening line was of course irony.
  
  I’m actually a guilt ridden Jewish man.
  
  With faultless black sheep credentials.
  
  Adam ... x
  - - misspoison
    - 2008-09-21 @ 09:10:27
    yes!!! I Kind of figured you were Jewish! x
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